TRUST, Swollen Head & Swollen heart

TRUST:

I believe all relationships are trust relationships, such as employer-employee, parent-child, husband-wife, student-teacher, buyer-seller, customer-salesperson.

How can we have trust without integrity? Crisis in trust really means crisis in truth. Trust results from being trustworthy.

Trust is a greater compliment than love. There are some people we love but we can't trust them. Relationships are like bank accounts: The more we deposit, the greater they become, therefore, the more we can draw from them. However, if you try to draw without depositing, it leads to disappointment. Many times we feel we are overdrawn but in reality we may be under deposited.

THE DIFFERENCE BETWEEN EGO AND PRIDE:

The biggest hurdle in building a positive relationship is Ego. Ego is self-intoxicating. Ego is negative pride resulting in arrogance. Healthy pride is a feeling of the pleasure of accomplishment with humility. Ego gives a swollen head while pride gives a swollen heart. A big head gives a big headache whereas a big heart gives humility. No matter what the size of a person's accomplishments are, there is never an excuse for having a big head. Pride, yes; big head, no.

Ego--The "I Know It All" Attitude

To an egocentric person, the world begins, ends and revolves around him. An egotist can be funny by default. A boss asked one of his employees how badly he wanted a raise. The employee said, "Real badly. I have been praying to God for one." The boss replied, "You are not going to get it because you went over my head."An egotist talks and looks down on others.

'Egotism is the anaesthetic that deadens the pain of stupidity'

WHAT IS THE DIFFERENCE BETWEEN SELFISHNESS AND SELF-INTEREST?

It is important to understand the distinction between these two words.

"Selfishness is negative and destructive. It destroys relationships because it is based on negative values. It believes in the win/lose principle"

"Self-interest is positive. It welcomes prosperity, peace of mind, good health and happiness. Self-interest believes in win/win"

Envy/Jealousy--"Crab Mentality"

What is crab mentality? Do you know how they catch crabs? They put a box with one side open for the crabs to walk in. It has a base but no lid. When the box is full, they close the fourth side. The crabs could easily crawl out of the box and go free. But this doesn't happen, because the crab mentality doesn't let it happen. The moment one crab starts crawling up, the others pull it down and nobody gets out. Guess where they all end up? They all get cooked.

The same thing is true with people who are jealous. They never get ahead in life and prevent others from succeeding. Jealousy is a sign of poor self-esteem. It is a universal trait. The biggest challenge comes when jealousy becomes a national character. Countries start degenerating, resulting in disastrous consequences for coming generations. Jealousy corrupts people.